![]() Sometimes certain body parts (or certain acts, like oral sex, for instance) are really creepy for us because of past abuse, or past things we’ve seen on TV or in movies when we are at certain ages that scarred us. I can’t tell this particular woman what to do because I don’t know enough of the story, but I’d like to give 4 big picture questions to think about, and then some tips for where to go from here. Why does my husband have to make it seem like he’s digging for gold or something?” At the time the question was funny, but I certainly felt for her). I once had a woman ask, “I know guys like sticking their fingers “up there”, but it creeps me out. (True story: every Girl Talk I give I have a Q&A part where I answer anonymous questions. For some it may be breasts for others it may be just the nipple for some it may be him inserting his fingers inside the vagina. Many women find parts of their bodies are just off-limits sexually. ![]() You’re Not Alone! Many Women Don’t Like Being Touched in Certain Placesįirst I want to say, loudly and clearly: You’re not alone. This one “small” issue has become a big hang up for us and I just don’t know what to do anymore. How?! Just tolerate something that I despise just to make him happy? Then what? How can I get in the mood when I want to bolt from the room? I have no issues with being touched elsewhere and he’s always considerate in virtually every other area of our marriage. (Side note: nursing children felt like a huge amount of self sacrifice for the same reason so it’s not an issue with my husband). Most women ARE turned on by it…but I’m not one of them. He’s a wonderful husband, but why can’t I have one thing that I am allowed to say “I’m not comfortable with that”? No reasoning or excuse has made any difference to him in what he feels is his God-given right. For 6 years I’ve been telling him to leave my breasts alone and for 6 years almost daily he has been making grabs at them and more recently telling me I’m withholding. As soon as they get grabbed/brushed/rubbed/ whatever, I at the minimum am set way back on the “in the mood” scale and at worst go absolutely cold and want him to get away from me immediately. If, and it’s a big if, I am super super in the mood I can tolerate them being kissed if it’s brief and there are no hands involved. My husband is obsessed with my breasts and I loathe having them touched 49 times out of 50.
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